When people talk about self-care, those Pinterest images fill my head – along with a good old dose of inadequacy. Self-care has turned into bath bombs and shopping sprees, facials and lovely walks in the crisp morning air. But for those of us who are struggling to survive each day, this luxurious ‘self-care’ is just unachievable. Yet one more this we cannot do. We need to re-evaluate what is considered as ‘self-care’ – and redefine it – doing the things we need to keep functioning.
So, this is for those of us who haven’t showered in a couple of weeks and don’t remember the last time we brushed our teeth. To people who haven’t experienced the joys of depression, this might sound pretty gross. But it’s the reality of mental illness.
Here are some ideas for things that might make you feel a little better – some for the days when life seems a little more manageable and some for the days when it just isn’t.
Brush your teeth or use mouth wash, not for anyone else’s sake but just to make you feel clean and achieve – if this isn’t manageable keep a packet of gum next to your bed and chew some gum.
Have a glass of water – being dehydrated can make you feel tired and grouchy. I find that if I can make a cup of tea, that always helps me get going, especially if it’s really hot.
Get in the shower, you don’t even have to wash your hair, just sit in the warm water. Otherwise wash your face, use a wipe, whatever feels achievable. Change your clothes into new clean pyjamas and fresh underwear and socks.
Take your meds – if you have medication to take, take it. If possible after some sort of food, but whatever works for you.
Go outside, breathe in fresh air and close your eyes, whether it be in the garden or on a dog walk or in the town centre. Being out of your own bubble for a little while can be helpful – when it’s too hard to face the world open a window, let the world come to you. It can be quite a relief to get some airflow thought your room, especially if you’ve been shut in for a while as it can start to feel musty.
Put on the TV or some music – this could be a distraction or just break the silence that sometimes comes along with felling numb.
Breathe and stretch – I know sometimes it can be hard to even move because your limbs feel too heavy and the energy cannot be mustered but try and take 3 breaths, the deepest you possibly can and on the 3rd breath, stretch as much as you possibly can – arms in the air, arch your back and if you feel like it let out a yawn. This will get the blood moving round your body and may even make you feel less weighted down.
Eat something to get your blood sugar up – perhaps something with not much preparation for example a banana or cereal bar.
Anything that needs doing – if there is anything urgent that needs doing write it down – for example feed a pet, send an email to work, or a doctor’s appointment that needs making. Tell yourself you will spend 5 minutes trying to do it, if by that point you haven’t then it’s okay, it can wait. You can rest. Often starting is the hardest part.
I hope this helps somebody, if you have any other ideas please comment them below.
Stay Safe,
Abbie xx